I was one of those brides who got the opportunity to have two weddings to the same guy (on separate continents, several months apart). For the second one, I had much more time to prepare, so I decided that I’d try to add a bit of excitement to my attire by making a birdcage veil.
Long before I got married I was skeptical, to say the least, of the following ideas people had about weddings:
- The wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life (that’s way too much pressure for one day to carry, and what— is it all downhill from there??)
- It’s all about the bride and what she wants (hello, this is the groom’s wedding too, and if he cares about how things are done, then he gets equal say)
- The invitation list (and who accepts and declines) makes and breaks friendships (sometimes the budget prevents inviting everyone you love, sometimes life circumstances prevent someone coming who is really important to you, and true friendships will survive these limitations)
And don’t get me started on the Wedding Industrial Complex that ropes couples into stopping at nothing to realize all their Pinterest-perfect dreams to have the most unique, most memorable, most envied wedding of all time.